Article written for Volume 3, Issue 3 of ‘Luminous Wisdom: Sophia’ (a Sibella Publications magazine).
Most of us are aware of the concept that everything works better when in balance. Do whatever you like in moderation they say. This is good advice. Do you follow it or do you harbour a quiet, uncertain little voice that asks you how much is too little or too much? Do you get stuck choosing between a glass of wine or a bottle of wine? A healthy wander of a hundred meters or overshooting with a run of fifteen kilometres? One chocolate or a box? A quick nap or a three day couch potato stopover? Well, how much is too much? Do you procrastinate uncertain or jump in and over-do things? Sadly, we often witness the disconnection between people as they sit in a semi-togetherness on mobile phones, each off in their own worlds and no real connection between themselves. How much phone time is too much?
If you ever feel lost within this dynamic of imbalance, it is understandable and easy to follow social trends. However the question arises about how helpful this unclear boundary is to yourself. Since each of us are individuals with different stories, pasts and needs, it could be useful to take a minute and consider what ways we unwittingly under or overshoot while navigating our busy world. To gain insight of our own needs, we can easily choose to stop and consider what we would like to achieve. Then list what could be pulled into line to support our healthiest, happiest outcome. This is strengthened when using our naturally given internal intuitive gut feeling of truth.
It is winter where I am and my weight creeps up. I seek extra warm foods and a sugar cuddle. My body has always heartily objected just before I hit an unhealthy crises point and it currently screams at me. Yesterday I was gifted with sweets and I wanted them. Really wanted them! My gut lurched with warning as I stuffed in a handful without measure and ate them. Later, feeling a bit regretful, my Knowingness raised an eyebrow and I sighed with resignation. Then I made a decision. I would eat sweets no more. The curse of sugar addiction is upon me and I need to respond with courage! Lovingly, I turned the battle into a companionable solution. The new direction would be not sweets but fresh sweet fruit. I can instinctively feel the line I need to draw in the sand and know what to do with it if this weight is to lessen by summer.
This same principle applies to everything and comes back to your choice of decision. Do you accept feeling drunk, sugar filled, non-productive or disconnected from those loved ones around you? If you do then carry on. No expectations from me. If you don’t, then I fully recommend a review and a fresh plan. One that suits you to a tee. Maybe one glass with one chocolate, a little nap and hug. Sounds good to me!